The easiest way to define a soul connection is simply, a connection with another that brings about growth of the soul. There are all types of soul connections, many levels, variables, and dynamics. These relationships can be brief, off and on, or long-term. They can be with family members, friends, or even a sudden, short-lived encounter can have a major impact on one’s life. They are certainly not excluded to the romantic kind that most tend to imagine.
In my situation, its apparent that this particular connection I have has the romantic relationship element. That is what you first take notice of, but looking back, it has all been so much deeper than that. I can clearly see that it is all beyond me and him, the universe has its own agenda.
I said previously, the beginning of being apart from your soul connection is exactly like hell on earth. Torture is probably the best word to describe this phase. The part that overwhelmed me the most is that is it REAL and you HAVE to deal with it. End of story. There is no way out. You have to face the music and suck it up brother. You deal with ALL OF YOU.
Never mind the soul connection, they are just the trigger. All the things you hate, have buried, things that have haunted you, hidden fears–it’s time to welcome these with open arms and confront them once and for all. You can’t escape this process. You can only DELAY.
It is all part of getting you to the other side of the bridge. I cannot even count the times that I cried my eyes out. There were times I wanted to and did curl up in a ball and lay in bed all day. Times I would just burst into tears and wonder how something could hurt so bad. The pain would take over my whole body and paralyze me. Tears would flood out of my eyes as though I had no control. My heart hurt. It ached and ACHED! I thought someone was ripping my heart out of my chest. The trauma you experience is unbelievable! I cried every day.
My soul was in unbearable pain and could not be consoled. People who were trying to help me only made it worse, “It will be ok”, “He’s not worth it”, “Get over him, you’ll find someone better” they would say. Thanks, but that didn’t work. I would get ultra frustrated with myself that I couldn’t get over it. I felt insane. I thought, what is wrong with me? I could not talk to anyone because no one understood.
I would be in so much pain, I hoped he could feel it. There would be days I got incredibly angry with him that he was being such a coward. All I wanted was honesty and truth. I was agitated I had to be the one to carry all the weight while he ran away. It felt like a burden I wanted lifted from me, but it was always there …lingering. I know he was dealing with the same crazy feelings I was, but with his own problems scaring him to death, he just handled it in an opposite manner.
Some days would be better than others. It would fade in and out. Still, it came back with a vengeance. I would be amazed when I didn’t think of him. Wow. I made it through another day. After crying as much as you can cry until no tears will come, you get to a point where you live with it and accept it as part of daily living. Even after feeling so betrayed and outraged at his behavior, I still loved the guy just the same. The only way to move everything along was to forgive. And I did, with all my heart.
As I’ve mentioned, all soul connections are different. I cannot speak for all, but in my case, the pain does not lessen. You learn to cope with the ups and downs. And after a while, you get up out of bed and breathe in and out all day long. You do all your routine human tasks, life goes on, you get a little stronger each day, but you don’t get over it.
I suppose that is both the curse and the blessing of soul connections. I miss him every day. I feel him around me all the time. I know what he is thinking and feeling, what he is going through. I can sense it. Same goes for him. We are a part of each other. We are connected to each others souls by an invisible cord across time and space, pure and simple. Sounds like magical pretend, but it is very real Universal Life Force Energy.
Soul Connections are brought into your life to steer you in the right direction on your life path, open you up spiritually, show you that everything is connected, that everyone has a purpose, that life has purpose, nothing is random!
Soul connections are a fantastic phenomenon. So many lessons were brought to me. MASSIVE LESSONS. Three extremely difficult lessons were unconditional love, boundaries and that happiness comes from within. Love does not equal pain. Seems easy enough, but I did not see it was an issue until it stared me in the face and backed me into a corner.
I learned how to set my limits, protect myself from others. I would no longer get stomped on or spit at viciously by others because I did not do what they wanted. Or be a victim because someone felt a need to project their stress on me.
At first when I was in so much pain, I thought if my soul connection was still here, this could have all been avoided. But the reality is, it was from me. It was my pain. And I realized that I didn’t need him, I needed to do some inner work and vice versa.
Need requires that you are somehow incomplete or that something is preventing you from being a whole person, or that you cannot be happy unless such and such a need is met. This is absolutely untrue. No one is ever incomplete. We are fine just the way we are. We don’t need things to be happy, we are taught that we need things to make us happy. Now, obviously, in this world you need all the basic necessities to survive on the planet, but that aside, it’s all just extra…..
A gift from God, if you will.
You can want a relationship or you can want things, but you don’t need them. It’s a blessing. And wanting to bond and share intimacy with another is totally natural, of course!! It’s part of being human and part of it’s beauty! They are an added bonus. Soul connections can show you how unique and special that bonus is…
Once you experience it, nothing compares to a soul connection relationship. It is like magic!
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“At first when I was in so much pain, I thought if my soul connection was still here, this could have all been avoided. But the reality is, it was from me. It was my pain. And I realized that I didn’t need him, I needed to do some inner work and vice versa.”
Very true…
Thank you,
Lori
My soul connection is trying to medicate his way through. Its alright. Everything he does teaches me something about myself. Its a treasure, a painful treasure when you resist it. But, having this connection has allowed me to know myself better than I could have without it.
No one and nothing can describe the pain of a Soul connection until you have gone through one and you’ve described it very well. The words from friends and family to “just get over him”, all the tears you cry and literally the PAIN that comes with having a Soul connection run.
I agree with you – it is both a curse and a blessing. Mine caused my awakening and on my life path through the search for answers. I wouldn’t change it for the world, but at the same time it was almost like a living hell until I did the inner work. (and some days I still miss him terrible)
He’s not in my life anymore and I know that if a relationship doesn’t ever happen in this lifetime, I’ll be ok – I don’t need him. The karma has completed itself, the energy is more balanced and I have discovered that I need to take better care of me in the process.
Thank you for sharing this perspective for those going through the process to find some hope.
This is exactly my journey. I cannot believe this. Its the same every incident and every word.
I cannot even describe how acurate this is to my situationa. I thought i just had gone mad and that i was just imagining all this but your article once more confirmed its all real. Thank you